“Chu, naw. Dem is pure trouble!” Pure trouble was when he came home from working hard all day and there was no cooked food.; It was when she didn’t want to wash the clothes or keep the house, and yet would hold out her hand on payday.

And Tarrus sings…”…she’s royal and I want her in my life. She has the qualities of a Queen, she’s a Queen! What a natural beauty, no need no makeup to be a cutie…and when they ask what a good woman’s made of, she’s not afraid and not shamed of who she is..she’s royal, so royal and I need her in my life..oooh Nubian Queen, my Queen, so supreme.”

What’s to be made of the popularity of that song among the men where Jamaican men are notorious for abandoning their women and children?

As I probed Desmond a bit more, I asked him about his house (he had it built with 7 bedrooms and just as many bathrooms) and who lives with him (his mother, grandmother, a sister and a few children) and where it was located (up on the hill over there, he pointed). I found out that they all depend on him for various amounts of support.

It was most notable to me that he supported two women completely and un-ambivalently: his mother and his grandmother and to some extent, his sister. How come? They’d watched over him, took care of him and sacrificed for him, he shared. He’s grateful to them, and happy that he’s in a position to help. I’ve heard that from more than one man.

Queens are mothers, grandmothers, sisters, but hardly ever girlfriends or wives. Desmond doesn’t have any children however in many cases, when a man’s woman “misbehaves”, the children become more hers than his.